"Girls are trained to say, ‘I wrote this, but it’s probably really stupid.’ Well, no, you wouldn’t write a novel if you thought it was really stupid. Men are much more comfortable going, ‘I wrote this book because I have a unique perspective that the world needs to hear.’ Girls are taught from the age of seven that if you get a compliment, you don’t go, ‘Thank you’, you go, ‘No, you’re insane.’"
- Lena Dunham, in an interview with The Guardian (x)
As someone who has struggled with body image issues throughout my life I can say that the body positivity that helps me most isn’t the kind that says “you’re beautiful!” or “boys LIKE that trait!” or even “that’s sexy!”
Because all it takes for that sort of positivity to fall apart is one person telling you that no, that isn’t beautiful, no, that isn’t sexy, and no, boys don’t like that
The kind of body positivity that has always helped me, and the kind that I really wish I saw more of, is the kind that emphasizes WHY my body is the way it is, and why that’s awesome
I’ve got gigantic hips? Well, I got them from my mom, and both of her labors were only an hour long. My gigantic hips are useful and awesome and I’ll love them if I ever choose to have kids! I have stretch marks? Well, my skin had to stretch to make room for those useful and awesome hips! I have a lil’ pudge in my tummy? Fat keeps me warm, and it gathers around my core to keep my most vital organs at a healthy temperature! All of these things are natural and normal and all of these things are things that I NEED.
And that’s awesome, because no one can take that away from me or turn that into a bad thing
I don’t give a shit about why my body is acceptable or pleasing to you
I just had a grown man tell me to “go make me a sandwich” as I was doing his pourover
I told him I didn’t understand what he meant because we’re a coffee shop, and he was like “oh it’s a joke” and I said I “didn’t get it” and he went “it’s funny because you’re a woman working in a kitchen”
And I just stared at him until he got how stupid he sounded
let them feel their ignorance burn into their souls
my biggest fear in life is when you’re just minding your business and someone’s ball stops right in front of you and the people are like hey mind throwing it here. the pressure is too much for me. i don’t know how to aim a ball and like sometimes you have to deal with frisbees it’s the worst thing in the word like don’t fight me on this I am right